“You Just Don’t Understand”
Understanding doesn't mean agreeing. It means hearing, acknowledging, being open and willing. This is a challenge but it has benefits to make it worthwhile.
Those who can, do…
What happens when you decide to take time out and plan to change a life? This is the first instalment of my new journey. While I'm not sure exactly how it'll turn out, I do know it's taking me somewhere I want to go. Watch this space!
Walking on eggshells, how to discuss sensitive issues
Most of us are careful about how we tackle sensitive issues with colleagues and family members. This article provides some pointers on how to go about raising a subject you have been avoiding, to help tackle delicate matters in a productive, fair and balanced way, and to be sure of getting the results you need. Getting the other person's attention, striking the right note and ensuring that something changes is the challenge.
Delusion is bliss
Delusion protects us, and it can provide pleasure. It is a useful skill, for example, to be able to put our cares aside and pretend so that we can get on with life, or being able to engage in the fantasy of a movie. Also, compared with when we deceive others, there is less risk of getting caught when we delude ourselves.
Are We Becoming More Prickly?
People are robust and free-thinking and not as easily offended as one might think. Still, better to be safe than sorry, I suppose.
When Optimism Meets Pessimism – Ouch!
How would you feel if every time you said something that was important to you, your best friend criticized or countered it with something that disagreed with what you'd just said? When we meet optimism meets pessimism it can produce some insulting and inconsiderate responses.
Adjusting to a New Reality for The Sake of the Children
Most people adjust to the 'new reality' eventually, when children are involved we have an obligation to do it sooner, rather than later. It's curious, that when grown-ups are angry they are told they are acting like children, and when children are angry, they are often told to "grow up." Dealing with the emotional aftermath of separation or divorce is unfathomably difficult, but however tough it is, part of the parental contract means that we will sometimes need to act like responsible adults, even though we don't want to.
Nobody Has An Ego
We can be quick to judge, and pop-psychology has given us some great concepts to help us. If only we understood them well enough to use them.
The Cost of Email Interruptions
Tasks take a third longer to complete when staff are ...
My Personal Resilience Survey
My stats are telling me that a lot of people are looking for info on Personal Resilience. Naturally I want to respond to this in a helpful way, so I'd like a bit more info.
