Make Your Very Own Day of Peace
Make peace today. We can't influence gloobal wars and destruction, but we can all influence our own relationships with people we are in contact with daily. Here are three tips.
Soulmates Are Forever, Right?
Adapting to change can be a shock to the system, and It takes time. You can't set a timetable – everyone adapts differently – but usually a few months or a couple of years are enough for someone to start living comfortably with 'the new reality', and re-building a life. In this case, it's a divorce, but whatever the change, we all manage the process in our own way. It helps to have insight, to be honest with oneself, and to accept. But occasionally people get stuck. It's a doubly...
Loss of Face Fuels Fighting
Arguments often rumble on because a vital element has been overlooked when trying to resolve them. Respect, or the perceived loss of it, is at the root of many disputes.
Effective Communication – Influence, Understanding and Fulfilment
Effective communicators don't need to impose, their impact is in knowing how to build rapport, listen, and then frame their message.
Difficult Behaviour – Five Key Factors
There are five key factors to consider before you attempt to handle any difficult behaviour. This video tells you what they are.
Workplace Valentine?
Thinking about using the opportunity of Valentine's Day to plunge into a new realationship at work? Tut-tut! Not finger-wagging, just a suggestion to look before you leap. Sound advice, even if you don't take it.
“You Just Don’t Understand”
Understanding doesn't mean agreeing. It means hearing, acknowledging, being open and willing. This is a challenge but it has benefits to make it worthwhile.
Patterns In Your Life
How do you change self-defeating behaviour when you don't know what it is? Simple really, when you know how. It's a bit like quantum physics (I think, but I could be wrong here). In quantum science they have had to test for things by assuming they are there and then working from that assumption. Its the same with patterns of behaviour. If you assume there is one and act to change it, you'll soon find out if it existed or not.
Will They Change If you Give Them What They Want?
People often say that they 'won't give in'. They come up with all sorts of reasons. The problem can be that sometimes we need to placate the other person before we can have a proper discussion that will lead to understanding. By contrast, it's also common to overuse placation to keep the peace. This is a short term strategy that creates two losers.
Chaperone or Shepherd, Same But Different
Chaperon, carer, parent or mentor... These are valuable enabling roles, but temporary. There's a thin line between them and the job of a shepherd, which can be limiting and restricting, or disabling.
